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Settle in pookies cuz grandma’s got a life lesson comin at ya…free of charge!

Yes yes. I am a grandma. A grandma of three in fact. All awesome, intelligent, creative individuals. I am so happy that one of my roles in life is to teach them good things, not just to yell and punish. Well heck, actually I want to teach the whole world good things, not just them. Chose to listen. Don’t chose to listen. The choice is up to you. But, I’m tellin ya I do have a few gems of wisdom up my sleeve from a couple of decades of experience.

First things first, I have been told lately that I talk a lot of shit about people. Hmmm. shit. I say nay nay to that. I actually just tell the truth that some are not quite ready to hear about themselves. Let me explain the difference.

To talk shit about someone. What exactly does that mean? Let’s refer to the almighty websters dictionary and find out. Here we go. To talk shit is to untruthfully speak of another in a belittling, deprecative, slighting manner, either in person or in absentia. In other words, it means spreading lies about private business, often in secret, when the person of interest is not there, because you don’t have the cahones to say it to their face. Why don’t you have the cahones? Well because the crap you are saying is not even true.

Ah I see. Now let take a look at what I do. Personally, I do not have the time or the inclination to talk shit about anyone. I have enough on my plate and enough positive goals to accomplish to bother with that kind of foolishness. It is ridiculous and small-minded and is nothing but a sign of ultimate insecurity and that kind of talk is being used to give the person a kind of false sense of empowerment or confidence. Yeah nope, not for me.

On the other hand, in the appropriate, or at least attempt to be appropriate, situation there are hard truths that need to be confronted and revealed. Those situations aren’t any less popular of course, but at least they are not lies. They are difficult and a lot of times the person that they apply to is not ready to hear them, but at least they are, in fact, true.

Having said that, I am going to try to continue to work on this. I think I have become a bit sassier of the mouth since this brain cancer stuff, with a side of occasional Keppra rage. I will work on it I promise. Sometimes I have this fear in the back of my head that my time will run out and I won’t have the opportunity to correct a wrong or bring an injustice to light. This is all true, but I have to realize that not everyone is ready for this. I have to make sure to adjust my pace and proceed accordingly.

Hopefully this has cleared up for everyone the difference between talking shit and telling the truth. Please enjoy this newly enlightened wisdom and I will work on my mouthiness. Have a fantastic day everyone.

Dr. Katz

I’ve got to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop!

As most of you know, the majority of the last three years of my life have been just this side of hellacious and gut wrenching. I have spent the majority of it fighting for my life through two different cancers, trying to save my business so I had something to come back to, taking care of my employees, and trying to soothe my family’s concerns. All of which I have done willingly with positive attitude and fortitude.

Well now, the universe has significantly shifted. There are a ton of positive things going on. My family is doing ok. The finances are turning around. My business has survived. My daughters are getting to follow their dreams…and….I am healthy and aware enough to enjoy it! Heck even the Detroit Tigers and the Detroit Lions are winning!

There is not a day that goes by that I am not humble and super grateful for everything that is happenning and I am putting out the good mojo wherever I go. Still, there is this penetrating inner fear inside me that it may all disappear again. There is literally a part of me waiting for the other shoe to drop, even though I have no indicators that it will. There is even a part of me that wonders if others are suffering in exchange for all the good luck that I seem to be getting.

Yes. I get it. Those are not healthy thoughts. Well thank goodness for the magic of an excellent astute therapist who gives it to me straight and helps me reset my ptsd thinking process. I tell here honestly about these kind of things and she looks at me and says ” Are you kidding me right now? You are wondering if you deserve these good things? You are wondering if other people are at risk of being hurt because good things are happening to you? I nod yes and then she smiles at me and goes on to tell me that the last time she checked, I have been working my ass off just to survive and help everyone else and try to save my finances and my business at the same time. I am definitely due for some good fortune. I have earned it in a way and I should not feel guilty for having it. I should just enjoy and go with the flow. It is not a logical way to think that others are potentially being punished at the expense of my good luck or positive things happening. Ok, I get it. Logically I know this but sometimes it is hard to relax and merely enjoy after all that has happened.

So, the bottom line of all of this is that I am going to keep up with the therapy. I am going to continue to work on my though process and continue to soak up the joy that I am experiencing right now and have great hope and not dread for the future. I want to be around for a long time more and fully embrace the positive turn of events. It will be ok.

Dr. Katz