Please, just leave the pelvises to me.

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Hey there folks. Dr, Katz here. I have been an Obgyn for the last 28 years. I have delivered thousands of babies. I have performed thousands of surgeries. I have done thousands of paps. All of these things are essential parts of the specialty that I was specifically trained for. I was also fortunate enough to have gone through residency at a time where Obgyn was temporarily reclassified as primary care so I also have training in internal medicine, er, icu, pediatrics, and family medicine. As a result, I know how to diagnose things outside the scope of regular Obgyn practice, but, at the same time, I realize that I am not the expert in those areas so I know when to refer when necessary.

Sometimes, I feel like the same does not apply to obgyn care. There are a lot of family physicians and internists out there that still do the occasional pap when they have to or if the patient does not want to visit an actual obgyn.

Most of the time you get lucky and the pap would have been normal regardless so no harm done. But, then there are those other times when the patient has been getting “normal” paps for years by their family doctor and then they come and see me and actually have an invasive cancer that could have been caught earlier. Thank goodness these times are rare, but they happen nonetheless and are preventable.

To me, this says don’t dabble. You are potentially putting someone’s life at risk, even if unintentionally. I know that a lot of people think that doing a pap is a no brainer and that is the complete story as far as Obyn. I tell ya. It’s not true. There is an art to it from the performing of the procedure without harming the patient and actually knowing what you are looking at and being able to pick up on the subtlest of cues that something is off. Obgyn stuff is that sneaky. You usually don’t get any symptoms until something is already bad. Then, it can be too late. However, if you just stop into the Obgyn once a year, a lot of that is both preventable and/or treatable.

I know how to treat blood pressures and treat a multitude of various diseases, but I know I am not the expert so I refer appropriately. I think that every patient needs a primary care physician and an Obgyn because they both care for different necessary aspects of health. I think that both are necessary to achieve total health and well-being. I think we are different specialties for a reason. All I’m asking is, please leave the vaginas and the pelvises to me. I promise I won’t let you down.

Dr.Katz

“I don’t mean to overshare, but”…..the words every Obgyn loves to hear.

What does it mean to overshare? To overshare is to reveal an inappropriate amount of detail about one’s personal life. I think it is somewhat subjective to determine just what is inappropriate. I think it’s different for everybody and even somewhat situational. In my profession, it is just a way of life.

I just heard these words the other day. “I don’t mean to overshare..but”. I am never sure what the point is of leading with that statement. Does the patient expect me to be shocked? Ask them to refrain from saying what they were going to say? Heck no! My usual reaction is to just buckle up and lean in closer. I can’t wait to hear what they have to say. Usually it is something pretty juicy and intimate….my orgasm was mind blowing from that treatment you did, I had the best sex ever after I started that medicine, a very personal description of a vaginal sensation, etc, stuff like that.

Why worry about saying stuff like that? If you can’t tell the gynecologist stuff like that, who the heck can you tell? My very profession is all about oversharing. It’s not like you can just blurt out stuff about your pelvis just anywhere. But you can here! The best way for me to help you with any of your concerns is to know everything!…every…last….detail. There is nothing embarrassing about it. If you tell me everything, we can either celebrate it or get to the bottom of the problem together. It is a win win. So, c’mon. Let’s start sharing.

Dr. Katz

What do you look for in an obgyn?

This question actually has multiple answers and is a more complicated process than selecting a primary care physician. The usual selection criteria apply of course: 1) Is the doctor in your network? 2) Are they local and easy to get to? 3) Does their availability(office hours) fit your availability? 4) Do they have good reviews? 5) Do you know anyone personally in your family or friend group that already sees them so that you can get firsthand feedback?

These are good to go by when attempting to select any physician, bearing in mind that reviews on google can be written by anyone anywhere, even if they have never been in the office in question. Having family feedback is good as well, provided that you know the whole story surrounding their comments. ( i.e Grandma Martha hates Dr. X, but also has multiple no show appointments and owes the office a lot of money that they are rightfully trying to collect) You see what I mean? Even the seemingly best source of information does not compare to your own personal experience.

Having clarified all that, I feel that selecting an obgyn adds yet an additional level in selection complexity. Finding the right obgyn means finding someone with a communication style and listening skills that make you feel comfortable enough to discuss some of your most personal and potentially embarrassing issues. I mean, you can’t go discussing your vagina and hormones with just anybody. Hopefully you are able to find somebody that listens and “gets you” at the same time.

This is the kind of thing I strive for the most….the listening part I mean. It is so so important. Many of the women that I see are frustrated because they have spent years dealing with unresolved issues because they either did not feel comfortable mentioning them to their previous physicians or they were dismissed. This should never happen. Every single patient deserves to be listened to and, in my opinion, if they have an issue that you are not prepared to deal with, they should be referred onward to someone that can. The patient should never have to suffer due to your lack of comfort or familiarity with their particular problem.

I received a compliment once from a patient that I did not understand at first, but now I consider it one of the best compliments I have ever gotten. She said that coming to my office was like coming to a girlfriend’s house. At first I thought, what the heck does she do at her girlfriend’s house? My face must have registered my confusion for a minute because she went on to explain what she meant. She meant that I was able to make her so comfortable at my office that she was able to disclose and discuss anything and everything that she wanted to. That is my job, my sacred mission, and what it’s all about. Have a great night everybody!

Dr. Katz