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Tag: power
Let’s Talk Therapy
Did you know that about 50 percent, if not more, of cancer patients/warriors/survivors have some form of ptsd? Ptsd stands for post-traumatic stress disorder. Ptsd occurs when someone has experienced or witnessed a shocking, scary, terrifying, traumatic, or dangerous event. This leads them to over respond to any sort of trauma from thereafter in an often debilitating or exaggerated way and could affect the rest of their life. It is a terrible condition. Therapy is an absolute must to try to combat this condition.
As a two-time cancer patient, I can tell ya, this crap is real. It can be devastating, debilitating and down right crappy. You find yourself freaking out at the slightest twinge, expecting the worst and not even considering the best. You have a scan coming up and find yourself grabbing for the ativan just to make it through it. It can get pretty ridiculous. Logic tells you that everything will likely be fine, but it is tough to believe it because your past experiences have taught you otherwise.
Ok, it sounds awful right? Heart pounding, sweating, pulse racing, fear coursing through your veins, ibs gettin all crazy. But, here’s the good news. There really is help out there, if you are willing to pursue it. You do not have to remain a prisoner of this terrible thing. That option is therapy. I mean actual, dig deep, deal with your demons, full disclosure psychological therapy. As difficult as it is, it can help you deal with your demons and identify your triggers and develop strategies that can either help you deal with these episodes when they happen or prevent them from happening in the first place. It’s truly a possibility of all wins.
The bottom line is that if you really want to start living after fighting your toughest enemy ever, you have to deal with the leftovers. You just have to, or else the fight won’t seem worth it in the first place.
On that note, I’m off to my regularly scheduled therapy appt. Peaceful vibes and power wishes.
Dr. Katz
I have a confession…I am actually a Kardashians fan
Yep. It’s the truth and I am ready to finally admit it. I am female physician and I make the time to sit myself down to watch me some Kardashians.
I actually went back to season 1 and began watching from the very beginning until I just finished watching the season finale of season number whatever. I think they have literally been on for over 20 seasons.
Say what you want about this group of women. There has been silliness, petty battles, public scandals, etc. We sometimes make fun of them. But the truth is, we are still watching! Hmmm.
The thing is that this group of women fascinates me, both in a fantasy sort of way and a fierce and powerful reality way. This is a group of women, under the leadership of matron extraordinaire Kris Jenner that have all moved forward to lead their own full lives with courage, intelligence and tenacity. They all run multiple corporations. They have matured into parents. They now all contribute to the less fortunate. They have accomplished great things. Their show has grown into much more than a reality show. As I am sitting here watching the season finale, I am watching Kim pursuing her prison reform initiatives. I am being educated about facilities that are about rehabilitation, not just entrapment. I am watching them being transformed by positive relationships. They have come a long way from cameras just following them to clubs and shopping.
Yes, there are plenty of arguments and family drama. Those are the tawdry fun parts to watch, but really there is so much more. They are all succeeding on their own. They are not just riding the coat tails of others. I can’t help myself. It is just becoming more and more interesting as the years go by. Say what you want, but I bet a bunch of you are still tuning in!
Dr. Katz
I Forgot
forgot what I was looking for
forgot who was looking for
a source of inner strength?
Secret cave of wonders?
a power source?
something I was missing?
Hold on a sec.
it’s getting a little clearer.
I don’t need anything else.
I don’t need anyone to do this for me.
I need to stop wasting time
Stop searching unnecessarily
I have what it take
I can do this.
Here we Go Again
Soaking up the last day
Making use of my energy
Before it ebbs away.
Relishing time in the sun
Before things get dark
And definitely less fun.
Feeling my faith and inner power
Determined to press on
Not letting thoughts go sour.
I can do this. I know I can.
Advocating for myself
This is all part of my plan.
Every Memory Has Value
Have you ever noticed that when an experience ends in a sour note, our first instinct is to try to erase it’s memory as if it never existed in the first place? We attempt to block any recollection of the event as if to protect ourselves from the pain. Sometimes we go as far as to rewrite history to attempt to make ourselves feel better about the whole thing or to justify our decision in the end. I think that we do this in order to regain control and shield ourselves from the bad experience, thus taking away it’s power and impact. This is what we tell ourselves at least. However, I feel like the exact opposite is true. Every experience, good or bad, has value and a take away point. Most experiences that end badly were not truly 100% bad, or we wouldn’t have engaged with that experience to begin with. Nobody is that masochistic. I think that by expending the mental energy to rewrite history or deny any good memories that were also associated with it, we are actually granting more power to the bad part of the experience than it deserves. We are actually chaining ourselves to that negativity and becoming an essential part of the bad experience. We are discounting our own credibility in our judgement regarding what we chose to participate in. By allowing ourselves to acknowledge any positive aspects as well, we truly begin to free ourselves from that negativity and realize that, whatever the experience was, it wasn’t just a waste of our time to begin with. Have a fantastic day everybody!
Dr. Katz