Tag: women

” I felt like you were speaking directly to me!”

These are the amazing words I just heard the other day from a new patient. At first I didn’t know what she was talking about. I inquired further. The patient clarified that she had been watching me and watching my videos on Facebook. She said the resonated so much with her that she felt like they were videos and lessons made especially for her.

I was blown away. This was the most amazing compliment ever. Let me be perfectly clear. There is nothing that I do in my life that is done for the goal of receiving compliments or praise. Everything that I do is because I believe in doing it and want to project as much positivity and inner strength as I can into the world. However, compliments are amazing when people bother to give them. We all spend way too much energy into negativity rather than positivity. It is truly a blessing when someone expresses positivity in any way. I am always up for it and am grateful to receive it.

This patient had such sincerity. This is what I have started hearing lately and what I have been striving for for years. To everyone that has initially poo-pooed my online social media efforts as meaningless or useless, I say aha! It is not for nothing! It is actually working! I have mentioned this suggestion at staff meetings to provide a suggestion for reaching out to people to advertise good services only to have people dismiss and shrug. Good thing I didn’t listen to them and kept on going.

I have finally attempted to reach my ultimate goal, to be able to reach current and future patients and pre let them know that I am truly there for them and that I see them as individuals and that I truly am ready to care for them for the entire lives if they let me. I am ready to empower them and help them advocate for themselves. I am ready to help them realize that they are allowed to put themselves as a priority for their own physical and emotional well-being. I am ready to assist them in realizing their own self-worth. So, ladies, if any of the rest of you are looking for someone to care comprehensively and completely for you for the rest of your life, I’m right here in Monroe, Mi.

If you ever need some additional info about anything in general, please feel free to check out other entries in this blog or my podcast Straight Talk with Dr. Laura. Happy reading or listening!

Dr. Laura

Ruth and Helen

I met with my aunt yesterday and I learned, or rather, relearned, yesterday that I have two amazing great great aunts named Ruth and Helen Hoffman. I am sure that I heard a tidbit here and there about them in my youth but the facts did not stick and I hadnt heard about them since.

Boy was I missing out!. These two fierce, intelligent, and adventurous women travelled and lived around the globe for years. They were artists, writers, and adventurers. They studied in Paris. They painted beautiful art. I was lucky enough to get one of their works from my aunt yesterday and it is now hanging in my office. It is of a beautiful middle eastern woman breastfeeding her child. Apparently my aunt did not notice this detail but I saw it right away. She let me have it and I was so grateful that I hung it immediately.

They hung out with famous artists, composers and the like all of the world. They ate with sheiks at the men’s table and lived in their own separate tent in the desert. They were not technically a part of an official harem, but the sheikh found them so fascinating he interacted with them regularly and engaged in meaningful conversation.

They designed a great deal of postcards, greeting cards and advertisements. They produced a great deal of art and used to have their own showings at Macy’s. My aunt and I sifted through hundreds of their cards and artwork. It was amazing the variety of color and detail and the continued shifting themes.

Then, we got to my favorite part! Their books. Yes, that’s right. They were authors and illustrators as well. They wrote three books with their own illustrations within. One was titled We Married An Englishman. One was titled Our Arabian Nights. The final book was titled We Lead A Double Life. I was even able to see the prelude letter to Our Arabian nights to their then publisher notifying them that something even better was coming after their first book. I am hoping to get a copy of that letter as well.

The bottom line is, that I feel a kindred spirit tie to these women. We share a love of life, love, art, literature, and adventure. I feel honored to even know about their presence and I can’t wait to read those books! I will let you know how they turn out!

Dr. Katz

IDGAF

Yes, I just saw this on a license plate the other day. A woman had it proudly emblazened on the license plate on the front of her car. You could tell that she was very pleased with herself, thought of herself as a true bad-ass.

I had some different thoughts about it. You know what those initials mean, right? It means I don’t give a fuck. I..don’t…give…a…fuck. I think to her, that means no one is going to tell her what to do or command her to give an opinion on anything. For her, that is stating some sense of power.

I see it differently. First, why “say” something like that out loud and not even use the words, just the initials? Why not spell it all out? Is she afraid of getting in trouble? Can she not even say it? That sounds like cowardice to me.

My impression is that when someone says that, they think they are making a power statement, but what they are really saying is that they refuse to make an investment of any sort in any idea or belief. They refuse to hold anything of importance enough to take stock in it or stand up for it. They are stubborn and weak at the same time. They are not actually taking control of anything. They are actually giving up on everything. They are refusing to put the work in. It’s a no win situation.

To say you don’t give a fuck/don’t care about anything means that you are giving up on the world around you. You are determined to not participate or find joy in anything. This is no way to live. I don’t understand it. I get that you get down after life has thrown you a crap ton of curve balls. Sometimes things get pretty shitty. I get it. I have been there. I have survived multiple cancers, almost lost my husband to heart disease and faced potential financial ruin multiple times…and I still give a fuck! If I can do it, you can too.

Dr. Katz

The time that guy sent me a “d k” pic.( One of the many things I just can’t make up.)

Hello everyone. Long time no write. As you know, I have been an obgyn for over twenty years, so I have seen a lot of crap…from the LADIES. I have been the palace of pelvic exams, beauty treatments, intimate secrets and more for many many years. Nothing really surprised me….until the other day.

I was on my social media( because nowadays you can’t seem to be successful in business without using it), and I clicked on one of my many direct messages for one of my companies. I frequently get messages from both male and female clients. That’s right guys, men get beauty treatments in secret too!. For now, let’s call the guy ” Joe.” Well “Joe” sent me a message, after trying to call multiple times. I give him the benefit of the doubt and try to open the message. Lo and behold there was a pic of “Joe” from the waist down in all his naked glory, cradling himself with his hand, as if to accentuate the size difference between the body parts. Whoah “Joe!” What the hell made you think I wanted to see that? I have one at home that I can stare at whenever I want by the way. He included a message to say that he sent it because I am such a sexy doctor….ummm…ok.

Here’s my question “Joe.” What were you hoping to get out of this? Was this flirting, in lieu of flowers or candy? First and last strike for me I’d say. Were you trying to force me to look at your genitals? That’s coercion man.

I decided to do a little research. How did/or since when did sending “D k” pics become so popular? Interestingly, no one knows. GQ did an article about this in August of 2019. It was very interesting. Apparently most men genuinely hope that whoever received the pic will whip themselves into a sexualized frenzy and immediately send back their own nudes. They also noted that most of the time when WOMEN sent nudes, they included their face. Not so with the penises. Just penis only. This tells me that these guys don’t think they have to preconsider at all when sending these little “presents.”

Unfortunately, this primal impulse has somehow lead to validation of the “d k” pic as a valid form of courtship! What?!!! The Journal Of Sex Research says that the thinking is very transaction oriented. ” IF I send this pic, they will send one back.” When we look back in history, the ‘D k” pic goes all the way back to Roman graffitti. I am not kidding you. Initially it had to be drawn or scribbled by hand but now with technology, it can all be potentially anonymous, which leads to a ton of risky sexual behaviors. The same study made the distinction between solicited( did you ask for it?) and unsolicited( no thank you). The only scenario in which unsolicited pics were welcome was for gay men on dating sites. For the rest of folks, it only stimulated shame, anger, and disgust.

So, we’ve studied it. Most people don’t like it.( Yeah right here!) I say cut it out will yah? Know your audience! It’s one thing to send a nude to a person you are in a relationship with ( if they are into that kind of thing). It’s quite another to send anonymous body part pics to someone you don’t even know. The moral of this story is put it back in your pants! I have no desire to look at it! #penisstrangerdanger

Dr. Katz